What is undermining someone?

To make someone less confident, less powerful, or less likely to succeed, or to make something weaker, often gradually.

We all know how it hurts to be undermined, but some will pretend as they don’t know. Well my point is we we all deserve to be treated well and we actually find it hard to get this person who can hold your hand/support you.

The reasons why people will undermine you/underestimate you.

1. Being peaceful

Being peaceful isn’t a bad thing but they will be always this person in your squad who won’t appreciate you whatever you do.

2.Physical appearance

Your physical appearance sometimes will make news, but the good thing is that’s the way you’re and you can’t change that. That’s you man.

3.Titles/Education

People will undermine you because of your education career or your title in a certain company, but the truth is your title doesn’t define who you’re.

4.Language or Accents

Others will judge because the way you talk , that maybe language or accent but remember that you can’t stay down because of people who are judging you about your language/accent.

5.Background

Sometimes people judge us because where we come from and what has been happening to your family or area. But the point is no one knows you better than how you do, be proud of where you came from. You have a story to tell.

6.Views

People will undermine you because the way you see things in the different way they see them, so what’s wrong with that? I think nothing wrong with you because isn’t assured that you must have same views.

7.Being quiet

Being quiet is a good idea when you’re protecting yourself but it’s also weakness and strength to your enemies or fake friends. But if you stand and speak out the reality will give you the chance to be not treated as a Coward.

8.Fear

When you fear that means you won’t express yourself, what do you think when you’re fearing someone that means you won’t have a straight talk with them.

9.Caring

Caring isn’t bad but too much caring is bad, so check the way you care about them. If is too much balance it and everything will be alright.

10. Gambling

Gambling is not bad but too much gambling is worst. When you joke too much with them showing them how you really want to be by their side, it doesn’t mean that they will always be happy to always be around you.

Author’s choice

Was once a victim, that’s why I wanted to share this with you. I was in some international school and met there different kids but I wasn’t ready to go there, you know how international students judge,undermine,feel proud of themselves but the truth is they are the most victims of depression, anxiety and many mental illness. Do you know why? This the reason “they feel proud of who they are but the reality is that if they get out of those big schools, they get to know that they are not special as they lie to themselves.” But my point is that I was embarrassed to see their behaviors, I made a common mistake but they couldn’t able to manage themselves or to hide but they made me feel like I don’t deserve to be treated well as they do. But all I had to do was to take it easy and show them that I’m fine with me. I really appreciate the small things my friends do for me, you really inspire me though you may not know this but you really do, I feel supported and there’s this special person I wrote about before in my articles that makes me feel like continue and not quitting, I really appreciate your love and care, be there for me because you mean a lot…. You the reason why I cope up with different issues–You’re a gift to me—

Try this when you wake up and when you going to bed.

Take 5 or 6 minutes for the beginning, 1.sit on the floor, 2.try to concentrate, 3.sit in any way you comfortable with then breath in and out,4. Tell yourself how good you’re and your qualities of course, 5. Let every negativity get out of you. Thank me later😉

Lesson

Never give a chance anyone to undermine you because of any situation you’re in, but stand up for yourself if no one does that for you, obviously no one will love you the way you do. So love yourself before suffering from mental illness caused by others, life gets to be fine when you have this person who can tell you how good you’re, show you your qualities and other things, appreciate small things that you do for them. Don’t surround yourself with toxic friends because these won’t add anything in your life, surround yourself with people who can challenge you, learn from you, teach you and who are happy for you. Don’t wait depression to pull you down because of fake people in your life.

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