Hey y’all, it’s been a while 🥹.

Back in April, I planned to write monthly blogs here. Things didn’t go as planned, but I’m glad to be here again with you 🫂.

You might be wondering what kind of story I’m bringing today 😂. First, I just want to know how you’re doing, and then we’ll take a quick rollercoaster ride 🎢.

You good? Sure? I mean good like very good ☺️.

Standing on Business

Life brings both good and bad moments. Whatever happens, stand firm and surround yourself with people who help you grow, not those who keep you stuck in cycles of repetition.

On your mark, set, go!

When Your Mouth Is Shut but Your Mind Shouts

Have you ever been in a situation where your mouth is silent, but your mind shouts louder than the outside noise? 😳

You’re not alone 🫂.

I’ve experienced this many times over the past years and months. It pushed me to analyze the cause and search for solutions, because if it happened to me, it might be happening to you, a friend, or a relative 😮‍💨.

Patterns We Carry

Our habits can be triggered by things we don’t normally notice.

For example: if you grew up in an abusive family, you didn’t just witness it; you learned it. That becomes your way of living, surviving, and expressing yourself.

Later, in relationships (work, school, romantic, etc.), those patterns activate without your consent. They create habits that wake up whenever triggered.

You may feel the need to:
• Control others
• Shout to be heard
• Shut down
• Fight
• Give up
That’s what your nervous system understands as a weapon to protect you.

Is this you?🤔

When that happens before you even know what’s going on inside your mind, it gets worse because you can’t control it unless you’ve discovered it.

What Does Your Mind Shout?

Some common noises our minds make:
• You might fail.
• You need to be alone.
• What if that person betrays you?
• You’re not enough.
• What if you die, or they die?
• They don’t care as much as you do.
• You can’t hold it anymore.
• It’s your fault.                                                    • Remember, it didn’t go well last time.

You know how your mind screams when you’re in the room alone or with people (physically present, but your mind is away/absent).

Facing the Mirror 🪞

Some parts of ourselves are triggered when we face the mirror. That’s when:
• You’re in partnership with someone who. won’t let you settle for the noise.
• You take a step into self‑retrospection.
• Or you make the big step to see an expert.

I once met an expert who revealed things I didn’t know about myself, things I probably shouldn’t have discovered that made me curious about my journey: how I grew up, and the experiences that shaped me both positively and negatively.

The Big WHY

We all struggle somewhere. But have you asked yourself why?

That big “WHY” has many answers, yet we often settle for “Never mind.”

You may ignore it today, but tomorrow your partner or children may pay the price for the noise in your mind.

Your mind is communicating.

Listening to Your Mind

I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist, but I believe we all need to take good care of our mental health.

Do you listen to your mind, or do you let it slide? Some are afraid of confronting themselves 🥲, and that’s very sad.

My Journey of Healing

I’m learning, becoming, evolving. I went through a lot before realizing it. I hurt many people unconsciously through reactions and actions because I didn’t know what was happening within my mind.

Everything was part of my nervous system, yet I believed others caused me to react the way I did 😮‍💨.

Common Struggles We Face

You might be reading this while dealing with:

• Mood swings
• Anger
• Anxiety
• Frustration
• Need for validation
• Need for someone to fill the void
• Need to control
• Need to fight

It’s alright. You don’t need to figure it all out now. Be kind to yourself. Everything is going to be okay.

Seeking Help

Find a community or an expert. (If you’re in Bujumbura, I can recommend one.)

It might sound crazy to go for therapy, our Burundian community may call you a “mad man”, but who cares about your life more than you?

Go for those sessions. Numva nokwandika mu Kirundi ahubwo, ati go for those sessions shaaa… 😂

It will take time, but you will be better.

Healing Together ❤️‍🩹

My last word: find people who are ready to see you heal and help you heal, the process can be grumpy 😞, but it’s worth it.

We’re praying to make a safe space for young adults, and to pray together as well.

Gentle Reminders 🤍

• Don’t forget to pray
• Don’t forget to take yourself on dates
• Don’t forget to celebrate small wins
• Don’t forget to thank those walking with you

Sending hugs to you all 🫂.